Single and Blue

I mean, do you seriously think wearing that much makeup on a normal day, like not going to a wedding or something, is flattering?  You look clownish.  

Yeah, we LOVE the new set.  We're going to be using it for every episode in the new year (except the first two weeks, because we've already taped those).  Thanks Eddie!!

Yes, I actually CAN sing! Growing up, my mother thought that her four children were the reincarnation of the Von Trapp family from the Sound of Music. Each of her children were enrolled in singing lessons at age five (I have the sweetest STAGE MOM ever!). 

I used to be a part of a Showchoir in Middle School and sang as, I kid you not, a DANCING BEAR at the local Country Fair in Northern California. Yes, I know this is quite the impressive Karaoke resume (move over Mariah!). 

Perhaps, I'll make up a quirky tech song one day to show you those long forgotten vocal skillz ;-). Email me if  anyone wants to help me write one, I'm game to perform. Shoot me an email and we can collaborate (al la Sonny and Cher). Maybe we could even feature it on a TMI tech episode. 

Thanks Meggy for being so complementary. This is the first year that I've felt comfortable in my own skin, it has taken me a long time to accept myself for all my quirks (not to mention my painful verbal stutters). I FINALLY feel (at least for the time being) happy on my own, grateful for what I'm doing, full of love, not for a man (that will come in time), but for my friends, family, and especially the community we're creating on this Website. 

Thank you for participating. The positive and constructively critical comments really help us. In the end, this show is for you, so please don't hold back, we need your input. We really do take each of your perspectives to heart.

  

 

Yes, I actually CAN sing! Growing up, my mother thought that her four children were the reincarnation of the Von Trapp family from the Sound of Music. Each of her children were enrolled in singing lessons at age five (I smell a STAGE MOM!). 

I used to be a part of a Showchoir in Middle School and sang as, I kid you not, a DANCING BEAR at the local Country Fair in Northern California. Yes, I know this is quite the impressive Karaoke resume (move over Mariah!). 

Perhaps, I'll make up a quirky tech song one day to show you those long forgotten vocal skillz ;-). Email me if  anyone wants to help me write one, I'm game to perform. Shoot me an email and we can collaborate (al la Sonny and Cher). Maybe we could even feature it on a TMI tech episode. 

Thanks Meggy for being so complementary. This is the first year that I've felt comfortable in my own skin, it has taken me a long time to accept myself for all my quirks (not to mention my painful verbal stutters). I finally feel (at least for the time being) happy on my own, grateful for what I'm doing, full of love, not for a man (that will come in time), but for my friends, family, and especially the community we're creating on this Website. 

Thank you for participating. The positive and constructively critical comments really help us. In the end, this show is for you, so please don't hold back, we need your input, taking each of your perspectives to heart.

I believe that was JA to Mary, taunting Mary because she hates Juicy.

Yep.  That was my twitter.  Juicy was 50% off!  Wooo!  And yes, I was ribbing Mary, because she abhors Juicy and I love it.

But NonSociety is a paying gig, yes, as is TMIweekly.  We all have salaries, albeit small ones, derived from our advertising revenues and investment capital.

But you only have one advertiser- Deodorant (how appropriate since your website stinks). So how does that pay all your salaries?   

I'm just sharing my feelings, which are genuine.  I'm sorry that you find it offensive that I sometimes get sad around the holidays when I don't have a significant other to love, but I think sharing these emotions and thoughts is incredibly constructive.  Feeling down is part of life - and so, yes, is "talking about boys."  It's certainly not the only thing in life, but it's part of it.  And since my segments are focused on dating, that's frequently what I talk about.

None of us - Meghan, Mary or myself - "needs a man for validation."  But that doesn't mean that we're not lonely sometimes!  I think it's much better to be truthful about our feelings than try to hide behind some sort of false rhetoric about being strong and perfect.  Sometimes we're strong, sometimes we're not.  We're human.  And the more we show that, the more other women will feel confidant enough to express themselves - even when they're vulnerable or it's not the "popular" emotion.

PS. I feel like you didn't watch the episode!  The entire thing is what to do so you're NOT focused on not having a relationship.

I have found this to be incredibly true, actually - and not just for boyfriends, but it definitely applies to them too! ... The minute you stop looking and stop wanting, it/he comes.

Sometimes this really, really sucks. :P

Amen, Amen to that, folks!!

My best relationships occurred when I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I met my fiance when I didn't event want to date anyone PERIOD, let alone get serious with somone.

I feel for ya though, gals...I've been there too...I'm so USED to being that typical single gal, and I was for the past 30 years of my life...I'd ditch certain parties because I didn't have a date, I'd avoid certain date-friendly events and I had many a tearful New Year's Eve where I was either sad and alone or whining on the shoulder of a similar girlfriend.

But hang in there. Stay strong and stay happy. And most of all, STAY BUSY and don't obsess about it! Cupid comes calling when you least expect him indeed... ;-)
((and count me in as one of those who doesn't understand why you gals are all still single---NYC dating life must be BRUTAL!!!))

Also, volunteer work over the holidays is awesome. Totally makes you forget about yourself for a while and makes your own holiday all the better for making others' better in the process. Definitely look into it this holiday, ladies!

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You are SO right, the moment you stop obsessing about finding that special someone is the moment you find them. I've found that my most powerful relationships occur when I'm strong, secure, and independent. 

This is the first holiday season that I'm without a serious boyfriend and I must admit I'm happier than ever. I really enjoy the peace of being on my own. 

I know it seems like the three of us are wallowing in self-pity in this episode, but speaking for myself, I know that I will never attract the right mate if I'm not first happy with myself. 

My mother was married with a child at my age, sometimes I envy the security she has (especially, after those daunting dates in the city). I now accept that this is my path. I'm focused on other things right now, which for me is better in the long run. I used to depend on boyfriends that inevitably always let me down, now I depend on various sources like my friends, family, and even the online community we've created. So I guess that means I depend on all you with such insightful comments posting each time our Website and TMI. Wow, that sounds really cheesy, but to me, its the truth. 

Kudos to you Meghan. You address this issue in an honest way and seem to truly be trying to find happiness and independence on your own. It's very attractive. On your blogs, it's very  interesting to read about your travels and discoveries. Even Mary seems to be finding some happiness spending time with her family at home over the holidays. Something tells me these activities are bringing you two a lot more fulfillment than Julia's vapid holiday Santa pole dancing. 

Me too. I am manless and delighted. Relationships are over-rated.

Hear hear!

Meghan would look stunning in a sack.  That bitch.
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YAY!!!!!  Send it to me when you're done!!!!!

Read JA's blog and it might not be so surprising to figure out why she's single. It's as though a boy-crazy 15-year-old wrote it. I say this not to be cruel, but if she can't see that it's playing a role in her failed relationships, she is not dealing with reality.

So true, Bonnie. And if you follow Julia's Twitter, it seems she's going on dates but trying to avoid telling the guy her last name. Not to be mean Julia, but I sincerely mean this: you are almost 30. Perhaps it's time for some more mature behavior when it comes to men and dating? That might be why you have problems being in a relationship. 

I totally agreeeee Meghan looks gorgeoussss!!! I mean she usually does, but extra on this video? Maybe its the bright blue color. 

I was on a break 2 years ago with my boyfriend, starting in the summer, but we got back together around thanksgiving....maybe I was trying to combat SSAD?? Who knows...at least now we're still going...

Also, maybe there's just something about that period in between thanksgiving and st. patricks day - anyone else remember that john mayer song?? He was using it in the opposite way that you're not going to break up until st. patricks day.