to Sabinefan, not all of us can afford a flight back home to see our parents. I live in NYC and my parents live in CA. A plane ticket is approx. 0 and I'm already flying back 3 weeks later for Christmas. Why not spend time with your BF if its more convenient/cheaper? My bf has family in NJ and it's a  train ride. Now, my options are to pay 0 for a flight across the country (and lose a day flying back bc of time difference) or take an hour train ride for . The answer is obvious. 

And Eloise, their point is that if you've been dating the guy for only 3 months, you may not feel that comfortable asking him and you are definitely not  bff with him yet. They are offering solutions so you don't sound rude by inviting yourself to his family's house. It's more polite to be invited to invite yourself.

Ew, dropping hints is just desperate. If you see the guy all the time anyway, why not go home and spend some quality time with your family - especially grandparents - who you might not get to see that much? 

I think you're in a very sad relationship if you have to keep hinting and can't just talk to your boyfriend as though he is a human being. A significant other is a friend first and foremost, if you can't speak to him the way you to speak to any of your friends then some might argue that what you have you is not worth a damn thing. 

I know SATC didn't teach you this but honestly, the more you play these games, the more you have to hint or stratergise or perform the further away you are getting from what a real relationship is, from what love is. 

If you want to spend Thanksgiving with his family ask him, if he says no or makes excuses that don't sit right with you then question what is up with that and where you are in your relationship. 

Also: These arbitary rules you ladies have 'We've been together three months so it means X...' are all bullshit and have very little to do with being in a healthy relationship and even less to do with being human being.

Oh Julia. 

You blogged about my comment! Wasn't meaning to offend, but you seem genuinely crestfallen here as the realization sets in that perhaps all your previous BFs have not viewed you as long-term material. You have also mentioned previously about often being the GF before the wife.

You see, these are the perils of constantly blogging/discussing your personal life. The people you hope are reading and watching then feel they can weigh in.

My point was simply that perhaps formulating yourself as a real-life Charlotte York is offputting to men. They'd like to see the girl they could take home who would roll her sleeves up and help clean up the kitchen or mash the potatoes. Who'd drop everything to go out for a brisk hike with the rentals.  Who wouldn't interrupt all the time. Who didn't blog or Twitter about her every move. Who doesn't have a 15-year-old's bedroom with teddy bears and self-portraits everywhere. 

That's all.

Mary, Sorry about last episodes comments. I was just having a bad day and took it out on you. What part of Houston are you from?

believe me, i hate to beat another tired Sex and the City meme to death, but if your boyfriend or significant other is not begging you to spend thanksgiving with him, "he's just not that into you."  you should not have to drop any hints.  whether he's spending it with his family or not (often not in NYC singles scene...as you know, many manhattanites not from the ny area) a man in love or even in like will make the first move when it comes to spending the holiday with you.  

So, I just have to rant. I was going to Thnxgiving at the bf's, but we broke up a couple days ago. I'm from the west coast and am totally alone on my favorite holiday. So please, when we say things like, 'well, at least it's not as bad as being totally alone...' remember the little people. I'm kinda looking forward to it in a weird way. No stress, no weight gain.

Also, I don't know why people bother to watch if they're only going to post negative comments that have nothing to do with the discussion.  I'm looking at you Bonnie!

Holiday plans are sticky when you have been dating only two or three months.  People have very different expectations concerning the holidays.  Some feel it's a time just for close family and some are more inclusive and casual about their holiday plans.  I agree with Mary, it's best to voice your expectations up front instead of dropping hints.  

I think when u know u know and you shouldn't have to drop hints, nine times outta ten maybe his family is too embarssing, loud or ya it sucks but he dosen't see a future with u. So why get mom all jacked up at the thoughts of grandchildren right?
I say try to get him to stay home and have your very own 1st couple thanksgiving together do something non traditonal and call it a day

Oh Julia. Yes, I would agree that if they aren't asking you home, they don't view you as long-term.

a. Be rid of the pink palace.
b. Stop dressing up like a Barbie doll. Trowelling on the makeup, headbands, girly dresses 24/7 -- forgo the makeup, pull your hair back in a polytail and try jeans and a T-shirt every now and again. Way sexier. Men don't want the crumpet all the time. They want someone normal.
c. Stop blogging/Twittering your every move. How can you NOT understand that this would be an issue for anyone pondering a relationship. Naricissism -- it is not attractive.

The episodes are getting better and better! cute!
Luckily my bf and I are from the same "hometown" so it makes it a little less awkward because we are both in the same place anyway