Julia, Mary and Meghan bring in matchmaker whiz, Lisa Ronis to share her experience in matchmaking. Learn how to find your perfect match and how you can become part of her inventory at TMIweekly.com
Cute episode.
I don't see what everyone's getting so upset about. Nobody's saying that we all have to go out and join a matchmaking service right now or even that we should. They're just presenting an option.
Also, matchmaking = escort service? Um, I don't think so. First of all escorts get paid in cash. Most don't get taken out for dinner or drinks, just straight to the hotel (or where ever) for sex then money, goodbye.
I don't know about anyone else, but that's not generally how my dates go.
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Negative stereotypes? I'm a single, working woman, who volunteers and I don't see this as a negative stereotype. I mean I'm interested in eating right and exercising. If I wasn't dating someone now, I'd be interested in the matchmaker. Yes, there is a recession and people are out of work. I was one of them recently. However, these girls aren't telling people to spend their rent money and unemployment checks on dating services.
If you want to see videos on people getting by in a bad economy or how to eat ramen for a month, make your own video. No one is stopping you.
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Tell Lisa that I am willing to be part of her male inventory. This will really throw a monkey wrench into Kasey's capacity to figure out who is getting something for "nuttin" I would pay for any date which will confuse her/him even more. She could be a character on SNL obsessed with what's in everyone else's backpack.
We are living in trouble times where thousands of people are being laid off every day and all we get from you is a way to WASTE 0? Who in today's world can afford this? No one is going to go out and shell this kind of money for this kind of service. This makes me sad because I feel like the info you are sharing is devoid of any real value.
If you want to connect with your viewers, please discuss topics that more of us can relate to. It's like you are completely unaware of the world we live in.
I think love is worth a lot more than 0!!!
But many matchmakers don't charge women anything at all (lucky us!) - they just charge the men.
My experiences with matchmakers, which I'll be recounting in my Time Out New York column next week, were extraordinarily good. Out of 4 guys, I liked 3 and had a great time with the 4th. And if you know anything about the dating world in New York, 75% success rate is ridiculously high.
posted 3 years ago by JuliaAllison
This was a fun episode, but it didn't seem like Lisa knew where to look into the camera.
Kasey is not some fringe freak. I think I can speak for her and many others - a lot of people have legitimate critiques of the overall message these girls are sending.
An open letter to Mary, Julia and Meghan: We're not some sad Internet trolls - we're wives, mothers, career women, friends and volunteers. We take offense that you reinforce some very damaging and negative stereotypes here and on your blogs. You want to be taken seriously but when you get any heat for the things you say, you tell people to "lighten up" it's just "fluffy entertainment." We're former fans that have been let down by your once promising web business. You had and continue to have amazing access and opportunities yet you squander them for spectacle. You make a mockery of other female web entrepreneurs. You promised a message of "living differently" but you continue to perpetuate a sad stereotype. You make excuses and don't fulfill your promises. You squash and block out negative feedback instead of listening to the people who care enough to comment or raise the level of discourse. You had so much promise and now you're a sad Internet joke. Is that what you set out to do? Is this what you want to be? Are you accomplishing the goals you set out to accomplish when you launched your venture?
If you aren't getting anything out of this then why do you bother to come watch the video and comment?
I'm getting something out of it. I can watch Arrested Development on Hulu instead of using my TV; because of Megan. I found and easier way to eat my fruits and veggies because of Mary. I also know not to text guys back because of Julia.
A video isn't going to make you live differently. You have to get the one to get off your ass and do it!
posted 3 years ago by elizabethboom
I hear where Jessalyn is coming from, but unfortunately, running this business isn't as easy as it looks. It's not just blogging and shooting little episodes. There is a lot business that is done on the backend. We don't just show up at CES or Fashion Week, it takes MONTHS of planning.
If you have any suggestions of how you what you had expected to see Jessalyn, please email us and let us know. I return 99% of my reader emails within a day or two. Mary@NonSociety.com
ElizabethBoom has a great point though. We actually are putting a lot of information out there. But if you are focused on what you're not getting, you will never absorb what you are.
I get tons of emails thanking me for everything from product recommendations to just simply being honest about how I feel. We are reaching out to you in several ways because everyone is looking for a something different to enrich their lives.
posted 3 years ago by Mary Rambin
Fabulous episode, girls!
I was kinda hesitant about the whole matchmaking thing, but after watching this episode I really liked Lisa because she seems as if she really cares and wants her clients to overall feel better about themselves.
Who would every think that "being inventory" could be so fun?!
Interesting show indeed, ladies!
I've never tried it myself, but I've had friends who did the whole matchmaker thing with varied results---I'd imagine in a huge place like NYC where it's so tough to really get to know people on a more intimate level, matchmaking is a great choice to make.
Why should it still be taboo in this day and age to pay to have someone help set you up with other single folks, after all? It goes on internationally all the time!
And hey, nothing wrong with a gal who takes advantage of the spoils of dating around? We've been scamming fellas for free dinners and extra perks for years. Nothing new there, I admit...
Good luck with those matchmaking services; and nice to see you all finally brought in a guest to shake things up!
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Matchmaking is cooler and safer than going on dating websites. And it's not as embarrassing!
I set up 2 couples so far but both broke up after a year! :(
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sometimes i come back and read the comments just to see the insanity that Kasey's spewing this time. her/his comments are always so weirdly intense and always good for a few laughs. i guess next time my boyfriend pays for my dinner i'll have to come to terms with the idea that i'm in some way his "escort service" for the evening.
Although, I am in a long term relationship... so i didn't find this episode necissarily helpful, I do agree with DJ Jazzy in saying that this episode had real flow to it, it was fun, and informative and when it ended I was kinda sad because I wanted more.
Great Job ladies! your making excellent progress with each episode.
Thanks guys for the positive feedback. We are working hard to provide a variety of different topics so some episodes are fun, others informative, and when we get it right, a show is both!
posted 3 years ago by Mary Rambin
I'd liek you ladies to address the "inventory" issue. It's my understanding that "inventory" girls get a kick back for the dates they go on. A kick back in the form of payment.
Being in a matchmaker's inventory usually doesn't cost you a dime nor will you recieve one for going on dates. Your profit is LOVE!!!!
posted 3 years ago by Mary Rambin
So, the free meals you get don't count? The town cars? The drinks? You're getting free stuff in exchange for going out with someone. Basically you're an escort. Is that what you're saying? This is similar to the line of questioning you received about Blueprint Cleanse. Free product is still a form of payment.
posted 3 years ago by Noreen
Actually, what you pay for depends on your date. They don't always send town cars, and you can certainly pay for drinks and dinner.
I think it's assumed that the man picks up the check because that is standard protocol.
I'm sure on your first dates you allow the man to pay. What difference does it make if you met the man on your own or through a matchmaker?
This particular "free product" comment is a stretch for you Kasey.
posted 3 years ago by Mary Rambin
Noreen,
Isn't that what dating is about? Oh... yeah... and not all women are the same.
I think ladies deserve to kick back on some occasions.
posted 3 years ago by elizabethboom
Julia, Meghan or Mary: I am curious to know if you girls use her services, either by paying for it, being in "inventory" or for free/discount by having her on your show. Thanks in advance for answering my question.
Julia went on several dates doing research for her Time Out article.
I'm totally intersted in being part of her inventory, but I've been too busy to take a meeting with her. But it's on my to do list. I think it will help me meet a more diverse group of men.
posted 3 years ago by Mary Rambin
This episode kind of raised more questions than it answered. Mary, maybe you can clear things up for your viewers. Do you pay to be in the "inventory" or is it free? If the men are paying the match maker to set them up on dates with the inventory (or vice versa with paying women) and the inventory is paid in the form of dates, drinks, dinners, etc. (and maybe leading to marriage but not always) doesn't this basically boil down to being an escort service? I am confused about how this works.
posted 3 years ago by Kasey
Inventory is free and you can always decline dates the matchmaker calls you for.
A date is not free product. Pay for the meal if it makes you feel like a strong, independent woman. But, bfd Kasey.
Dating is hard enough as it is. You are fortunate if you have friends, matchmakers, whoever to help you navigate through all the bullshit. I haven't figured out the dating world, and working so much I'm not as social as I used to be. So a setup can often be a nice way to have someone looking out for my best interest whether that be a mutual friend or a matchmaker.
posted 3 years ago by Mary Rambin
i love matchmaking. there is nothing more satisfying to me than introducing two friends who go on to have a sucessful friendship or relationship -- one couple i introduced has been dating for over three years with an eye on engagement this spring! i'm very nosy (my boyfriend would even say meddling) and i love to know that everyone around me is happy.
I liked how you ladies distributed the speaking and leadership more or less equally. With the exception of Mary's "how do we find love?", I thought the entire show seemed very natural and smooth. While Mary's line made me laugh, it seemed very scripted... it might have been because she suddenly focused directly towards the camera (or teleprompter) and said those words. Regardless, the entire show appeared to be more of a collaborative effort, which I thought was a positive change from prior episodes.
As far as a matchmaking goes, I guess I should not knock it until I try it. However, it seems expensive if the interview costs 0. I would imagine there must be additional fees per date or if there is a successful match. Does it cost anything to be "inventory"? Regardless, in the grand scheme of things, the cost is peanuts if it is successful.
Inquiring minds want to know.... did any of you have success through Lisa?
Check out my Time Out New York column next week to find out! I'll have a link on my website, and the full text will be on Time Out New York.com
Thanks DJ Jazzy Jeff ;)
(PS, to answer your question, all matchmakers I've spoken with have varying fee structures. Some charge only the men and never the women, some charge a small fee to women and a larger one to men, some are equal. It just depends on the particular service.)
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