i broke up with my bf recently.... and within hours asked him back. have any of you initiated breaking up? if so, how do you stick to your guns and KNOW you made the right decision. Well, Meghan made the write decision with Mutthole (Matt)...

because i seem to be the first male opinion here i would like to share my perspective. i may be a bit biased because i speak from my heart and I am in a great relationship with the woman i love.   when my girlfriend and I broke up I was extremely sad and "heart broken".  the idea of her moving on and hooking up with an ex would have truly hurt.  love is a bond that needs to be protected and as long as you are truly sure the person was not right for you you move on but depending on the strength of the bond, a good period of celibacy would not hurt and allow time to honor the commitment and bond you had.  watching you guys made me laugh and i know my girlfriend would get a kick out of you all because of your humor and strength.  i wish you success with this - its funny stuff - and hope that you meet the guy that knocks you off your feet and he holds you as the queen of his world.  but of course you dont need that ;) i'm going to watch more episodes...

I usually have zero contact whatsoever. And I never return to an ex, b/c they are your ex for a reason. Once they're out of my life, they're out of my life for food. 

To jump back on the wagon, I spend a few days sulking, b/c I think that's important for the healing process. Then, I jump back into MY life, that gets to be 100% mine again. When you're in a relationship, you have a lot of times where you compromise, or hold another person's feelings and wants in your decision making. It's great to drop all of that and focus on ALL of your own wants and needs, selfishly for a little while. Watch your favorite movies, crank up your favorite music, eat your favorite foods, wear your favorite clothes. Or, take a trip, make a big purchase, etc. It feels great to just cut ties and worry only about yourself, and always boosts me into single life again feeling positive and great about myself. I think it's important to feel great when you're single. Being a mopey, self-hating single is really unattractive and weak, I think.

I love you guys so much. Oh my god.
on the topic of guy friends and their defensive qualities, i've had friends tell me my ex was a "stupid leprechaun with a small penis" and that he looked like "a naked mole rat crossed with coach blanchard" (who is, by the way, a woman)
needless to say, i got over him pretty quickly after that.
I love guy friends.

yeah, the version on itunes is maybe the part after the commercial twice in a row? Something got screwed up here.

I have got into the habit that whenever I go through a break-up (no matter who initiated - because really, its even sad when you have to do the breaking-up, cause it means another one didn't work out...ya know?) anyway - of renting a Sex and the City season and buying one of those wonderfully overpriced tiny cartons of Ben and Jerry's (preferably New York Super Fudge Chunk or Chunk Monkey) to share with some best friends!

and now - when there is a break-up, immediately after the initial hurt and sometimes shock there is a little bit of joy because I know I have a great, guilt-free evening of indulgence ahead of me!

There are some breakups that no amount of rebound relationships, booty calls or trashing the ex can help you get over.  For these I've found that getting over them just takes resolve.  You might be sad, you might not want to date anybody, but if you just cut contact and go through the motions of moving on that in time you'll have a moment when you realize that you're over it.

Trashing them with your friends and making up mean nicknames for them helps too.

Like you gals mention, I think ZERO contact is the way to go if the breakup was bad. It is really hard to move on if you are still hanging onto shreds of what was, on both sides. So even if you broke up with him, it is best for him for you to let go 100%.

As for tactics to help you move along...I tend to take time with my friends and unwind, focus on the positive things in my life, work out (since i always seem to gain while I am in a relationship), and begin to test the dating waters. I do not think that dating immediately and frequently is the way to go, diving into things never seems to pan out the way I want them to, resulting typically in it never being as easy and carefree and fun as I want it to be.

I think the best way to mend a broken heart is to NOT continually bring up old exes, which is exactly what you guys are doing! 

As a viewer, I am not really sure what the focus of this episode is supposed to be. What was the viewers supposed to get out of it - the video comes across as the three of you sitting around telling personal stories to each other and talking about yourselves. What is the viewer supposed to learn or take away from this?

this is totally different than what got downloaded on iTunes...

woah this episode is broken.